|Christian & Ben|
First, my second son Ben graduated from High School in late May. We began planning a home party and barbecue but he grew uncomfortable with that idea and instead asked for a small dinner with some men and young guys that have been a part of his life. I organized this group of men and I asked them to consider bringing advice and wisdom for Ben. We gathered at a nice resturant and began to enjoy a meal. While we ate, many of the older guys shared stories from their college days, usually highlighting something they would have done differently or a fun memory.
|my older sons|
|I spoke about Christian and then I spoke to him|
These moments of calling my sons up to manhood have been some of the most precious moments of my life. The older ones have gone from being my little buddies, then crazy teenagers and now, so gratefully, my close friends and allies. All of us too often simply let life happen without recognizing the transitions that are happening around us, like a boy becoming a man. While I still make huge mistakes with my young men and am still learning much, I encourage you to be intentional and strategic during this time in your sons life.
p.s. for those who are real adventurous or who live "down under", checkout my good friend's organization Fathering Adventures in Australia.
p.s.s. also a great resource in understanding the boyhood to manhood journey is Robert Lewis' classic book Raising a Modern Day Knight