- We pray for the children each day during our prayer time. This has evolved over 20+ years of marriage, but my wife doesn't guilt me if we don't pray on a particular day, she simply makes herself available and encourages me.
- Give dad good books to read with your kids during bed time. Many times my wife will give us a good book or series to read such as "Little House". Bed time can be such a valuable time for a dad to reconnect with his children through reading and other bedtime rituals (praying, singing, hugging, back scratching, etc.)
- Don't over-burden your husband when he first comes home with whatever is broken, bills that have arrived, etc. Give him space and an opportunity to connect with you and the kids on a personal level before adding to his "ever-growing, never ending to-do list".
- Defer to and show respect to dad in front of your kids. After we go out to eat or ice cream or coming home from vacation, my wife will often say to our children in a fun way,... "Let's say thanks to daddy!, he worked hard to get this for us". While I certainly am not looking for thanks (cause I love to provide for my family), this touches me down deep and teaches our kids to appreciate the things we enjoy.
- Help your husband with his schedule. My wife is good about communicating to me about our family schedule, sports matches, recitals, etc. this helps me be strategic with my time and get to the events that will be more important to my kids.
- Pray for your husband to be the father God wants him to be be. This method is far more productive than any brow-beating will ever yield. Some men are not naturally relational and it can take time for God's to soften a guys heart toward his kids. My wife uses "The Power of a Praying Wife" to pray for me daily.
- Notice when your husband does fathering well. Tell him how good it was that he did or said something, encourage (put courage into) him. When he hears your affirmation (a few hugs wouldn't hurt either at this point) it will all come together for him.
What other ways can mom's help dad's become better fathers?